Wanting to be happy, positive, and hopeful is only natural. It is an innate need for human beings to feel happy and minimize sorrows and disappointments. There are many things, which can contribute to happy, peaceful, and joyful feelings. If you realize that you are not as happy as you should or want to be, now is the time to make changes. What is stopping you?
While browsing my Spectrum TV stream guide, I realized that I have a few channels to suit my taste. And most of them are entirely to appease my kids and husband. And guess what? I chose this particular channel line-up! Even though I’m a TV buff, I ignored my happiness here! That’s how we all roll. So what is it that makes us do these things? Let’s explore.
Why Do People Ignore Their Happiness?
As people get busier and older, they ditch their hobbies. With ever-increasing responsibilities as an adult in their hectic life, they think it is okay to spend all their time managing and fulfilling those duties. You should know that indulging in hobbies is a guaranteed way to boost your happiness.
Ignoring ourselves is one of the major reasons why happiness becomes scarce for us. Yes, being caring is a good thing. But not at the expense of your own happiness and mental well-being. Try striking a balance between both.
Rediscover your hobbies. Whether it is baking, reading, gardening, collecting particular stuff, or whatever, start doing them more often.
Give yourself a happiness boost by developing the following daily habits.
Feel Grateful for Whatever You Have
One of the truest aphorisms of the world is, “money can’t buy happiness.” Let that sink in! People are becoming so dependent on material abundance and success to be happy. It’s all in their heads.
Have you seen how people in the poverty-ridden areas are smiling genuinely? And have you seen how people with posh houses and vehicles are often battling depression and anxiety? You can check the stats to figure out that money has actually nothing to do with happiness. Happiness is strictly a state of mind.
Learning to be happy and content with whatever you have is one of the biggest tricks to be happy. We are not saying here that ambition is a bad thing. But that ambition needs to be positive, it shouldn’t be so overwhelming that you fail to recognize and appreciate what you have right now.
Appreciate and celebrate the little things in life. Express gratitude and nurture good thoughts. This will make you happier and peaceful.
Indulge in Physical Activity
Working out is great for your physical and mental well-being. It boosts your confidence, keeps you in shape, and makes your brain activity better. It also reduces anxiety and stress. Exercise helps you in self-disciplining too.
Exercise increases the happy hormones dopamine and endorphins. You don’t have to essentially hit the gym or be a part of a Zumba run, a simple morning jog or run can do wonders to your mood, energy level, and happiness.
Happy people foster connections. They feel connected at home, at work, and in their communities. Engage with people who share your interests and passions. This will encourage growth and will make you feel that you are a part of a bigger purpose.
Hang out with friends. Volunteer to work for a good purpose. Plan a picnic. Invite a pal over for dinner. Be open and approachable. It will help you connect with others. And in turn, it will fulfill your fundamental and inherent need for belonging.
Social support also acts as an effective buffer in stressful times. Connecting with others will also help you understand peoples’ perspectives and will give you a different outlook on different problems.
Cultivate Positive, Yet Realistic Thinking
Being realistic doesn’t mean you can’t be a positive thinker. But always expecting good things to happen to you is not a realistic approach. You need to strike the right balance. You need to be prepared for the tests and predicaments life will throw at you. And it’s the same for everyone.
You need to build and refine your coping mechanism and skills to stay sane and hopeful in testing times. At the same time, healthy skepticism is not a bad thing. You need to aspire for higher purposes and dreams and struggle to achieve them. As said earlier, striking the right balance is the key!
Embrace your genuineness and uniqueness. You will achieve nothing by faking it, instead, you will get drained by having to maintain this fake persona all the time. Stay true to yourself be comfortable with who you really are.
While self-improvement is a good thing, there’s a clear difference between improvement and faking. Behaving authentically will make you express yourself more easily. Accept yourself first before you expect others to accept you.
Don’t Be Judgmental of Others & Yourself
You may find it clichéd but it is true that each and every individual out there is treading an individual life journey. They have their own set of challenges, troubles, tests, struggles, and traumas. Most of them are trying to do the best they can according to their given circumstances.
And if you can relate to all of this, you are going through the same struggle! It’s high time that we start giving ourselves and others a break. Set goals and high-standards but don’t judge!
Be Proactive with Conflict Resolution
You need to change your perspective about conflicts and issues in order to be happy. No matter what the issue is, treat it as solvable and temporary. Be proactive and assertive when it comes to solving problems. Be they emotional or otherwise.
Don’t let problems consume you. If you are not proactive with your conflict resolution, even the smallest of problems will appear unsolvable and gigantic.
Lastly, develop and follow a good self-care regimen. These practices will help you avoid things, which take a toll on your peace of mind. This includes big and small things. For instance, if delaying Spectrum bill pay worries you, make a schedule of paying all your utility bills in a timely manner. Avoid things, which can steal your peace.